It’s hard to forgive people. And ourselves. If you can understand them… forgiving them is much easier. (And the same goes for yourself.)Consider the weight you bear when you aren’t willing to forgive someone: it drags you down because it hangs on your subconscious. If you aren’t willing to forgive, it’s because you want to hold on to the resentment and anger. You want to feel wronged and dole out blame. And it’s unhealthy. And you probably don’t realize it. And you might even want to forgive, but those deep seated resentments make this impossible until you unearth them and deal with them.
The irony here is that you, the one holding the blame, is causing more harm to yourself than the person who “wronged” you in the first place. We all make mistakes. We all hurt people. Sometimes it’s malicious, most of the time it’s not. If someone acted malicious towards you, you should thank them for teaching you something. You’ll now guard yourself from this person, you’ll stay away. You’ll also have some experience that will make you more aware and more vigilant when dealing with other people.And if it wasn’t malicious, you still learn: that said person is human, just like you, and that they are capable of mistakes. Either way, do yourself a favour and forgive.
Many times, the worst situations can end up strengthening your relationships. If someone was out to hurt you, use it as “information” to better protect yourself from this person in the future, but still forgive. This doesn’t mean you’ll forget — you just forgive for yourself, to alleviate the burden for you.
Action: Forgive someone who needs forgiving. Or remind someone that you have forgiven them, again. It could mean all the difference.